A peek into non-dual coaching

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Client: Can you give me ways to be calm and focused when I’m at work?

Coach: Why do you want to be calm and focused?

Client: Because I want to do well for myself and my company. I want to succeed.

Coach: Could that possibly be getting in your way?

Client: Sure, but that’s the position I’m in.

Coach: What if you gave up thinking about success? Would that help?

Client: I don’t think so. I want you to refine my thinking for more success.

Coach: But that’s just more thinking.

Client: Sure, but I want you to make me think with laser focus.

Coach: You will, if you simply think less.

Client: How do you get from thinking less to laser focus?

Coach: What happens when you’re not thinking?

Client: Nothing I suppose. There’s nothing there.

Coach: Okay, how would you describe that nothing?


Client: It’s quiet, silent.

Coach: Is it calm?

Client: Okay, I get where you’re going with this, but that silence goes away the moment I start thinking.

Coach: What’s taking away the silence?

Client: Others are – my boss, my spouse, my kids, my colleagues, my thoughts.

Coach: But where’s the silence amidst all of it?

Client: Hm, I guess it comes in and out, in between thoughts.

Coach: What if you gave more attention to the silence over the thoughts?

Client: Okay, but I don’t want the thoughts that take away the silence and the calm.

Coach: Is not wanting more thinking?

Client: Yes, I suppose.

Coach: What does silence have to say?


Coach: In between the overwhelm and overthinking is the silence you’re experiencing now. Simply give your attention to that.

Client: That sounds too simple.

Coach: In a way it is, like being calm is simple.

Client: Yeah, but how do I do that when I have deadlines, and a demanding boss?

Coach: What does silence have to say?


Client: Okay, I’m seeing some possibilities.

Coach: And are you calm and focused?

Client: Yes, very. I feel pretty still.


Client: Okay, now what?

Coach: I don’t know, you tell me.

Client: What’s next?

Coach: What does silence have to say?


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