How many times have you as a coach or facilitator been told to be neutral?
I’ve heard it many times. I’ve said it many times. I still find myself saying it. Yet there’s an essence to it that’s missing. Almost a sadness to the word, a sense of something held back.
The definition of neutrality:
not engaged on either side
not saying or doing anything that would encourage or help any of the groups involved
Most definitions start with “not”. Not aligning, not engaging, not taking sides.
When I coach from this place I’m more conscious of what I’m avoiding than what I’m pursuing. When I facilitate from neutrality, I need to see sides in order not to align.
But what if there are no sides, no things to not align to? What if there is just space, and us, and movement.
Instead of what we’re not, we can then focus on what we are.
As coaches and facilitators,
We are movement.
We are space.
We are embodied availability.
We are love.
We are not nothing, we are many things. And it’s how we define these things that makes us powerful.
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