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How you see the world creates the world
Looking at a cardinal sitting on an electrical line, I realized it wasn’t red, but rather red to me. My eyes are built to see red, whereas the morning dove’s are built to see the same bird in UV light and a mosquito sees it as an infrared heat signature. How the bird sees itself is…
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Out of control
Control sometimes feels like the boundary at which we know we’ll be ok. At first glance it appears to be the choice between security and vulnerability. Control means we can act, assert our agency. Out of control is vulnerability to a circumstance, pure uncertainty. Without control, the distance between us and others shrinks. We don’t…
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Creating the world through conversation
What happens if we fully express ourselves in conversation? And assume the other person is doing the same? This is different than talking, which is a natural and casual way to interact with each other’s personalities. In full expression, we’re co-creating a collective expression of ourselves. Or stepping towards what can feel like a central…
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Where do you go for wisdom?
Recently I joined The Magic of Emergence led by Steve March. These three questions have stayed with me: Most people have an answer to the first two. Content is everywhere and our culture is hyper-focused on it. I think this is especially true in learning and professional development. There’s always something employees “need to know.”…
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I am not neutral
How many times have you as a coach or facilitator been told to be neutral? I’ve heard it many times. I’ve said it many times. I still find myself saying it. Yet there’s an essence to it that’s missing. Almost a sadness to the word, a sense of something held back. The definition of neutrality:…
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Solitude vs. Loneliness
You can feel lonely around people, but in solitude all people are within you. You can hold yourself in pure silence where nothing appears but everything is available. You are with, not apart. You are lone, but not alone. Silence wraps, doesn’t confine. A moment of solitude can transform the day, but loneliness coffee drips…
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Right is right now
As someone who’s spent years training and working in Agile spaces, I’ve come to hold certain views about the world. Like how I see teams… I hold that teams are the core units of productivity in an organisation. They are more than the sum of their parts. They are living organisms. And so I have…
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Adjectives to nouns to verbs
From a bad father to a good father It’s hard not to compare when using adjectives. Okay, I’m just a father. It’s hard to avoid societal expectations when using nouns. I’m here, watching, fixing, guiding, learning, parenting, befriending… Verbs adapt to the needs of the moment. Being present doesn’t have the burden of consistency. It…